Initiating a conversation about problem gambling with a loved one—whether it’s a parent, sibling, or friend—can be challenging. However, it’s crucial to address the issue before it escalates. You don’t want to push them away by being too forceful or telling them what to do, but you also want to prevent them from continuing down a harmful path that could lead to financial struggles, trust issues, and damaged relationships.  
While it can be difficult to find the right words, and you may worry about saying something that could offend them, having an open and honest discussion can provide insight into their mental and emotional struggles. Approaching the conversation with care and understanding can help you work together to find the right support and resources that are tailored to their needs. 

Recognizing the Warning Signs
Problem gambling is often referred to as a “hidden addiction” because it can be difficult to identify due to the lack of physical signs. Instead, it shows through changes in behavior and lifestyle. Recognizing these warning signs is the first step in addressing the issue. Be alert for the following red flags: 
•    Gambling more frequently or for longer periods than intended.
•    Arguing with family and friends after gambling.  
•    Borrowing money or selling belongings to gamble.  
•    Chasing losses, or returning the next day to win back what was lost.
•    Experiencing restlessness or irritability when attempting to stop gambling. 
•    Increased debt or experiencing financial difficulties. 

Choosing the Right Time and Place
Choose a moment when both of you are calm and in a positive frame of mind. Find a quiet, private space where you can have an open discussion without distractions or interruptions. Ensure they have resolved any stressors before starting the conversation, as discussing such a sensitive topic during a high-stress time in that person’s life may trigger negative reactions. 

Speaking with Compassion, Not Judgment 
This conversation is not the time for blame, shame, or anger, as these reactions can make them shut down completely or feel hopeless. Accusations will only escalate the problem and hinder effective communication. Create a safe space by approaching the conversation using non-judgemental language and patience. Focus on your genuine concerns and unconditional support. 

Encouraging Help Without Pressure
Use language that is encouraging rather than ultimatums or threats when offering support. Be prepared with a clear support plan and do some research in advance. Emphasize the benefits of professional help and recovery resources, and share positive outcomes from others in similar situations who have sought help. 
Taking the Next Steps Toward Recovery 
Let your loved one know that you are there to support them in taking the first step toward recovery. Whether this involves seeking professional counseling or exploring treatment programs, reinforce the message that help is readily available and that they are not alone in this journey.

Additional Support and Resources
If you or someone you know is struggling with unhealthy gambling, help is available. CADS offers prevention and treatment resources for both adolescents and adults who may be dealing with a gambling disorder. By taking control of your situation, you can start your journey toward recovery. Click here to complete our online assessment and access the support you need. 
 For more information, please reach out to the following resources: 
•    Iowa Gambling Treatment Program: 1-800-BETS OFF
The CADS Prevention Department delivers a range of impactful services designed to support Scott County residents affected by problem gambling, including: 
•    College Campus Policy Toolkits
•    Social and Charitable Gaming Venue Toolkits 
•    Distribution of 1-800-BETS OFF materials 
•    One-time presentations focused on problem gambling (Target Audience: casino employees, adults 21+)
For immediate assistance, the National Problem Gambling Helpline is available 24/7 to provide confidential support. You can reach them through: 
•    Call: 1-800-GAMBLER 
•    Text: 800GAM 
•    Chat: 1800gamblerchat.org (Free, confidential, and available 24/7. Works in all 50 States). 
Take the first step toward recovery today. Help is just a call or click away. 

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