Addiction can affect anyone, regardless of economic status, age, sex or race. Substance abuse not only harms the individual who is using but also those who are close to and care about them.

We are not going to sugar-coat it. Talking to a loved one or family member about substance abuse is uncomfortable. It can feel like you are invading privacy--but if someone you care about is showing signs of addiction, face the situation head-on and quickly. Having a vulnerable, honest conversation could be the motivation your loved one needs to start their recovery.

Start Talking

Addressing someone’s addiction is going to be awkward. Here are a few conversation starters to help you open a dialogue.

· I wanted to check in with you because you haven’t been yourself lately.

· I’ve noticed you’ve been acting differently lately. How are you doing?

· I’ve been worried about you lately. Are you doing okay?

· I’ve noticed you’ve been drinking a lot lately, and I’m wondering how you’re doing.

· I’ve noticed you’ve been using [insert drug name], and I’m worried about you.

Guide The Conversation

You should keep in mind that your loved one may not be ready to hear what you have to say. They may react defensively or say some hurtful words out of frustration or anger. It’s best to listen in these situations and ask guiding questions to keep the conversation going.

Here are a few questions to help you keep the conversation productive:

· When did you start feeling this way?

· Do you feel like you’re trying to escape or forget something?

· Do you feel like your drug use/drinking is a problem?

· Do you think you could go 24 hours without using drugs/drinking? A week?

· What can I do to best support you right now?

· Have you thought about getting help?
 

Offer Support

Remember that this conversation is not about you. You want to make sure your loved one feels heard and understands that you are there to provide support, not to fix the situation or dominate the conversation. Listen and respond, when appropriate, with encouraging words, such as:

· I want you to know that you are not alone — even if that’s how it feels to you.

· I am here for you, and I want to help you in any way that I can.

· I may not understand exactly how you feel, but I love you and want to help.

At the end of the day, you’re having a conversation to help your loved one start their recovery. And the best way to do that is to:

1. Open a dialogue

2. Seek professional help or treatment

3. Get local support through AA and NA meetings

4. Follow up on your loved one’s recovery journey

5. Become a non-judgmental, kind and loving source of support for your loved one.

For more information visit recovery.org and startyourrecovery.org.

Do you feel you or someone you know might be at risk?

Anyone can be affected by substance abuse. Whether you are an adolescent, adult or have a family member who is struggling with substance abuse, CADS can help with the first steps. CADS is committed to helping those in need. We are focused on support, care and treatment services designed to meet the needs of each individual and their family members.

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