How do you approach someone that does not want to speak with you? People struggling with drugs or alcohol may not want to discuss their addiction. Learning how to communicate in other ways may lead to a breakthrough with that person.
Verbal – Verbal communication is the most common form represented in two types. Oral communication is the spoken word between two individuals, often the most common form of communication. The second is written communication. Anything from writing an email or letter of correspondence could be included.
Non-verbal – This type of communication deals with anything not spoken or written. Things like body language, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, and posture are all considered non-verbal forms of communication.
These types of communication can be used to get through to someone struggling. People communicate differently and understanding these different forms may help break through to understand what someone is going through.
Speaking your child’s language
Understanding another adult is one thing, but to comprehend your child is a whole other. While you may be a great communicator with adults, your child has a completely different perspective. Learning how to approach your child may help you understand their language more.
Get on your child’s level- This seems simple, but it works with adults and children alike. No one likes a person above them speaking down on them. Show them you are equal and can be on the same playing field.
Understand it’s not about you- A child’s focus is on themselves. Parents must understand you need to focus the attention onto them rather than making it about yourself. Help them understand what you are trying to convey with words like ‘you’ and ‘we’ instead of focusing it on yourself.
Have fun with them- This seems simple, but having a good time with your child can open them up to a conversation. Especially as kids get older they tend to push away from their parents. Find something they enjoy and do it together. While you’re doing that activity together, open a dialogue and see if they open up to you.
Digital language- Many kids today have dialogues in digital form. Text, email, and IM are all different ways they prefer to communicate. Learn which form your child prefers and see if they would be open to conversing on a digital platform.
If you or someone you know is struggling with communicating, or you just need someone to talk to, CADS is here to help. Give us a call at (563) 326-1150. Our lines are available 24 hours a day. We are here for you.
CADS offers a variety of substance abuse services focused on support, care, and treatment designed to meet the needs of families and individuals of all age groups in the community.